I believe that when it comes to love; there are relationships we are meant to have that prepare us for the next best love in our lives. That it isn’t about “What They Did to Me/What Nightmare That Was”…but it’s purely meant to just teach us more about ourselves, and what we truly need and want.
Ever since I’ve had this mindset, I haven’t cared to force some relationship that wasn’t working any longer but to just let it go. Sure it hurts… But I would rather have someone in my life that suits me better than someone that I feel I am trying to convince to stay.
Don’t stay for my sake. Do me the favor and save us the trouble of forcing something that obviously isn’t working.
Eventually there will be a love that not only suits us better, but is going to be our biggest lesson of all in which we cannot imagine not seeing through 150%.
I see a lot of friends heartbroken and are wrecked with the disappointment. Can’t blame them for getting their hopes up.
Maybe I’m seeing things too spiritually for them. But I still see it as a lesson to be grateful for, no matter how much it may hurt at first.
I’m optimistic. There’s always something better coming along. Even if it isn’t immediate. There is something better, and it is on the way.
I’ve told this exact thing to numerous women who’ve come to me for romantic advice. When you’re in the moment, caught up in a shitty relationship, your prospects look meek, but there is something better out there.
I swore up and down that my ex and I had a passionate and fiery love but now that I can look back on it with a clear and unbiased vision, I see that he wasn’t right for me and we didn’t have a healthy relationship.
Now, I can honestly say that I’m in a beautiful and mature relationship with mutual respect and adoration. I wasn’t seeking it out, it just fell in my lap and I fell hard once I realized how amazing he treated me and how perfectly he understands me. Plus, he was extremely patient while I was figuring this out.
I hate saying that there is always something better out there, in a sense, because when you’re in a good relationship, you don’t want to think about it ending, but… no one thing or person should ever devastate you to the point that you can’t recover. Life does go on. Plus, I really do believe that happiness can only come from inside of you and that your happiness shouldn’t depend on someone else, no one should make you “whole” despite what those love songs will tell you.